NARCISSIST ABUSE FAQ

NARCISSIST ABUSE FAQ

  • What is a narcissist ? 

    • A narcissist is a person with narcissistic personality disorder and a spiritual demonic disorder. Narcissists have mental conditions that cause them to have unreasonably high sense of their own importance, they seek attention, and desire to be worshiped. Narcissists don't have empathy due to refusal to heal from trauma and disconnecting with self, therefore demonic spirits possess them.

  • How do I know if someone is a narcissist?
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    • First sign to look for is love bombing, this is how narcissist get to their victims
    • Operate with the spirit of jezebel, Delilah, python,  leviathan and witchcraft
    • They are always the victim, and play the victim 
    •  Have high sense of self-importance, require constant and excessive admiration
    • Feel they deserve privilege and special treatment
    • Believe they are gods and superior
    • Lie about their achievement and make it seem bigger than what it is
    • Always preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty and the perfect mate
    • Expect people to do favors and whatever they ask without questioning them
    • Unstable in all their ways, they are double minded
    • They will ask to borrow money and other resources and never pay it back
    • Comes with chaos and confusion
  • What is narcissist abuse ?

    • Narcissist abuse is a spiritual and psychological warfare on your soul. It is when a person with no empathy possessed by the devil and demonic spirit  is assigned to come into your life with the intentions to kill, steal and destroy. This is done through different tactics, starting with manipulation (witchcraft), trauma bonding, gaslighting, and silent treatment. Narcissist abuse is spiritual, psychological, financial, and physical. 

  • How do I know if I am being abused?

    • Abuse is to misuse something or someone other than the intended purpose for which it was created. It is to have bad motives, and ill will to misuse someone or something.


    Signs to Know if you are being Abuse:

    • The first sign to know if you are being abuse is you will lose your  peace
    • Mental health will begin to decline, you will start dealing with confusions, mental fugs, depressions
    • You are the one paying for all the household expenses while the other individual is living rent free with no care, all your resources are being used
    • Gaslighting 
    • Silent treatment
    • Entangelment/ Triangulation/ cheating and lying
    • They get enraged when they don't receive what they want
    • Lashed out when they feel insecure or humiliated

  • What is the Narcissist abuse cycle?

    • The abuse cycles never change, it is always the same for all types of narcissist.

    1. Idealization- This is when the narcissist sees you as the perfect mate and thinks they are in love with you. They will love to bomb your socks off in this stage and be everything you ever hope or dream for.

  • Devalue- This is when the narcissist takes you off their high pedestal and starts to violate your soul in every way possible. Expect disrespect, cheating, lies, stealing etc. They will tell you how horrible you are, nothing you do is good enough. All of this is done to tear you down and make you feel less than. 

  • Discard- This stage is when the narcissist takes everything they can from you (time, energy, resources, finances, dogs etc) and leaves you to die. This comes as a surprise and is often done subtil. They leave you and go skip in the sunset with someone else as you gasp for air. 

  • Hoover- This is when all else fails, they are ready to spin your block. The grass was not greener on the other side. They are ready to come back to you and play victim and blame you for their mess and take you for another ride. 

  • What is love bombing ?

    • Let me just say, Love bombing is witchcraft. Love bombing is a tactic narcissists use by offering extreme displays of attention and affection with the intent to manipulate you. Love bombing leads to gaslighting and abuse, it is toxic.


  • What is narcissist supply?

    • Narcissistic supply refers to the constant supply of attention and admiration, shelter, clothes, food & any and all things the narcissist deems as a need. To gain their supply narcissist love bomb and future fake and mirror you. 

  • What is silent treatment?

    • It is refusal to verbally communicate with someone as a means of punishment, emotional manipulation or control. Narcissists use this method when you cause a narcissist injury. Silent treatment will impact your need for belongings, self-esteem, having control over your life and creating a meaningful experience. Silent treatment can be known as social isolation and stonewalling or ghosting. The best thing to do when this is happening is leave them, walk away. 


  • What is Gaslighting?
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    Gaslighting is manipulating someone by psychological means into questioning their own sanity. This is very demonic and can lead to mental health issues. 

  • What are the different types of narcissism?

    • Experts identify five types:  Overt, Covert, Communal, Antagonistic, and Malignant narcissism. 

    Overt Narcissist: An overt narcissist is grandiose, attention-seeking, and preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love. These narcissists feel innately entitled and superior, often resulting in manipulative behavior to achieve recognition and control.

    Someone with overt narcissism might come across as:

    • outgoing
    • arrogant
    • entitled
    • overbearing
    • having an exaggerated self-image
    • needing to be praised and admired
    • exploitative
    • competitive
    • lacking empathy

    Covert Narcissist: A covert narcissist is someone who craves admiration and importance, lacking empathy toward others but may act in a different way than an overt narcissist. They may exhibit symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) but often hide the more obvious signs of the condition.

    Some common traits of someone with covert narcissism include:

    • expressions of low self-esteem
    • higher likelihood of experiencing anxiety, depression, and shame
    • introversion
    • insecurity or low confidence
    • defensiveness
    • avoidance
    • tendency to feel or play the victim   

    Communal Narcissist: A communal narcissist is a type of narcissist who wants to be perceived as virtuous, generous, and an important social or moral leader of society, but objectively, this is not necessarily the case.

    People with communal narcissism might:

    • become easily morally outraged
    • describe themselves as empathetic and generous
    • react strongly to things they see as unfair

    Antagonistic Narcissist: Antagonistic narcissism is characterized by a consuming need to be "better" than others. Someone displaying antagonistic narcissism may lie, cheat, gaslight, or put others down to "win" or appear dominant.

    Some features of antagonistic narcissism include:

    • arrogance
    • tendency to take advantage of others
    • tendency to compete with others
    • disagreeability or proneness to arguing

    Malignant Narcissist: A malignant narcissist will display traits such as arrogance, a need for recognition, and tendencies to use or exploit others for selfish reasons. Malignant narcissism is used to describe those with symptoms of both narcissistic personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder.

    Someone with malignant narcissism may have many common traits of narcissism, like a strong need for praise and to be elevated above others. But in addition, malignant narcissism can show up as:

    • sadism, or getting enjoyment from the pain of others
    • aggression when interacting with other people
    • paranoia, or heightened worry about potential threats
    • Vindictiveness
  • Are people born narcissists ?

    • No, Narcissists are not born as narcissists.  Narcissists choose to be that way, They made the decision to do evil due to trauma they faced in life. 

  • Do narcissists ever  change?

    • No, someone that is diagnosed with NPD  cannot  change.  They have a reprobate mind. To have a reprobate mind means you are morally depraved, unprincipled, corrupt and cannot be changed. You are rejected by GOD beyond hope of salvation. Narcissists rejected GOD salvation, therefore GOD handed them over to the devil, therefore they have the mind of satan and can only do evil. There is no light in them. Those with narcissist trails however can change if they repent.

     Don't expect someone with NPD (not the traits) to change, and don't wait for them to change, you are wasting your time. Romans 1:28

  • Did the narcissist ever love me ?

    • Unfortunately No. It was all fake. Narcissists don't have the ability to love, they don't have empathy, without empathy you cannot love.


  • They have a mental health disorder, should I stay and have compassion?

    • It does not matter what mental health disorder they have, narcissists are aware of what they are doing, they enjoy doing evil. That's the path they choose. Do not make excuses for their bad behavior, your well-being should always be and remain your top priority.  Find out why you think you deserve abuse? You may need to heal from trauma, accepting abuse from others is not compassion to yourself.


  • Why did the narcissist target me ?

    • The primary reason the narcissist targeted you is because you are chosen by GOD and have a purpose to fulfill. Your light is what attracted them to you, you probably have your life in order and something to offer therefore they saw you as a good supply. You did nothing wrong, and it's not your fault. 


  • How do narcissists trap their victims ?
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    Narcissists use love bombing, trauma bonding,future faking, fear, intimidation, silent treatment and mind manipulation to trap their victims. Narcissist will also use a baby to trap you and keep you as a long term supply. Some will go as far as doing witchcraft to keep you under their control. 

  • What spirits are operating in a narcissist?

    • Narcissists come with legions of demons. Some of the spirits are jezebel, pythons spirit, Leviathans, Spirit of divination, Spirit of death, Spirit of infirmity, Spirit of perversions, Sexual immorality,Spirit of Delilah,  Spirit of addictions, Witchcraft and Mind control spirit (octopus spirit).


    Spirit of Jezebel: This spirit comes to control, manipulate, and dominate. Jezebel seeks power and control. This spirit comes with witchcraft, whoredom, idolatry, seduction, rebellion, and anti-Christ, false doctrine. Jezebel comes to destroy the prophet and the church of GOD. This spirit dislikes God's order of family and priesthood, and seeks to destroy it. 

    Spirit of Delilah: This is a seducing spirit that operates through  seduction, deception, and manipulation to weaken you and find out the source of your strength. 

    Spirit of  Python: This spirit comes to kill your spiritual life and squeeze the life out of you until you literally die. It brings suffocation, distorted mind (you can't think straight, also confused, have chaos going on in your mind), manipulation and control of your life starting with your spiritual life.

    The python Spirit works to get you out of the place of prayer, and reading your bible, understand as a believer that's praying and the word of GOD is how you gain your power. If this spiritual successful manage to take you away from GOD you will battle with spiritual growth, stagnation, blockage of blessings

    Spirit of  Leviathans: This spirit is the king of pride (Job 41:34), it causes hardness of heart, vanity, ego, stubbornness, arrogance, restlessness. This spirit is what leads to a reprobate mind. Comes with destruction (Proverbs 16:18).

    Spirit of  Divination: the art or practice that seeks to foresee or foretell future events or discover hidden knowledge usually by the interpretation of omens. This include tarot cards, visiting psychic, witchcraft


    Spirit of perversions: This spirit comes to the altar that GOD has created. Your soul, destiny, mind, sexuality, vision(how you perceive things). This spirit brings lust, sexual perversion homosexuality, lesbianism, incest, religious, false doctrine, heresy, witchcraft, pride, vanity

    Octopus spirit: This spirit comes with mind control, confusions, mental pressure, mental torment, migraine, double mindedness, Rumination and negative thinking. God on a fast and ask the Lord to sever the tentacles of mind control.


    Spirit of infirmity: This spirit brings sickness, illness, disease and affliction.


    Spirit of death: This spirit comes to cause  premature death, suicide, destructions. If you are  having thoughts to kill yourself, this is the spirit you have to rebuke and deal with. 

  • What curse does a narcissist bring to my life ?
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    Stagnation, delay, setback, bondages, death, mental illness are just a few. 

    Narcissist comes with a lot of curses, having an ungodly soul tied with them puts you in bondage to the kingdom of darkness. You will not fulfill your purpose as long as you are tied to that curse. If you deal with one you have to cut the soul tie, otherwise the curse is still attached to you. It does not matter if you are not with them or not. 

  • What is rumination and how do I stop it ?
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    Ruminations is when you are having repetitive negative thoughts about a person, place, things, or traumatic experience you had. When you have an ungodly soul tied with a narcissist or toxic individual their spirits transfer over to you, and begin to torment you in your mind. Rumination is not normal or godly, nothing should have such hold over our mind.

    To stop rumination:

    1. Repent and submit to GOD
    2. Read the bible daily
    3. Fast and pray for deliverance of the mind  Isaiah 58
    4. Delete all memories or anything that reminds you the narcissist
    5. Cut the soul tie
    6. Go no contact
    7. Avoid going to their social media & take a break from social media

  • What are word curses?
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    Word curses are negative words spoken over you, your life, and anything pertaining to you by a narcissist or others. If you are battling with word curses spoken over you by a narcissist or anyone else, Please fast and pray, decree the word of GOD over you day and night, speak the opposite of what was spoken.

  • Can I be healed, delivered and restored from narcissist abuse ?

    • Absolutely yes, it is a process but if you are ready to break those chains contact us.

  • How do you break free from a narcissist?

  • First step is repentance: 

    • The first step to breaking free from narcissism is to seek GOD and turn completely to GOD in repentance. This can be done by praying and fasting. Narcissists are completely evil and will go as far as to try and kill you. Only GOD can help you come out safely, only GOD can restore, heal and deliver you from that hell.


  • Secondly, Go no contact if you don't have children:

    • The next step is to go no contact if you don't have children with them.  Avoid all forms of communications and altercation. Deleted social media temporarily, if you have to relocate or stay with family for a while do so. Follow all the instructions GOD gave you as you pray and fast seeking  HIM. (If you have kids and have to co- parents use the gray rocking methods and limit communication as much as possible.)

  • Third, Seek deliverance and therapy:

    • Narcissists come with legions of demons, they are demon carries and walking curses. When you get into a relationship with a narcissist, ungodly soul ties are created. This keeps you in bondage and keeps you under a demonic curse. You will face mental torment, stagnations, failures and nothing in your life will progress. 


    Due to the fact that spirits transfer, you will need to undergo deliverance. God can lead you into self-deliverance or lead you to one of his deliverance ministers. PLEASE BE AWARE OF WITCHES AND WARLOCK, they usually will post as spiritual coaches and healers but not of GOD. Pray for GOD TO LEAD YOU. 


  • Lastly, Start your healing Journey:
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    To  start your healing journey, remove all toxic people and things from your environment, create a safe place, seek professional help (therapy) and GOD divine healer. You will have to search your soul and figure out what is broken within you, what trauma you haven't healed from ? what generational curses are in the bloodline that need to be broken. 


  • What are soul ties and how do I break them ?

    • Soul tie is when your mind, will, and emotions become one with another individual through sexual intercourse, friendships, business partnership.

    To break a soul tie you have to :

    1. Repent and fast seeking GOD for forgiveness and mercy for creating ungodly soul tie
    1. As you  fast ask GOD to break all ungodly soul ties and renounce/cancel every agreement you made or words you are in agreement with. (The Holy Spirit will bring all things to your remembrance)

    1. If you have any legal binding tie to the individual, go through the proper steps to terminate those contracts

    1. Get rid of anything that you received from the narcissist or person, items are points of contact that can give them access to your soul & hinder the process

  • How do I deal with a narcissist I have a child with ?

    • I will suggest you seek the face of GOD concerning your child's well being and spiritual state first, if God leads you to do something do it.


    Other practical way:

    • Co-parenting- use court apps and document everything
    • Use the gray rocking methods. This is when you deliberately act unresponsive or unengaged so that they will lose interest in you.
    • Only talk about your kids/children. Do not share your personal business
    • If they are not following court orders, follow up with the court and take proper measures to protect yourself and children.
  • Will the narcissist get their karma/ judgment?

    • Narcissists do get their karma and they are already living in it, However that is not what you should focus on. I know the pain you are going through and I understand why you are asking. Focusing on them getting their karma or when it will happen is taking time away from you and your healing process. Surrender to GOD and when you least expect you will see GOD vindication. 


  • What signs should I look for if I am being financially abused by a narcissist?

    • Narcissists are co-artist and really good at bankrupting you. 

    Things to look for:

    • They lie about their finances to get you to trust them (Most time they dont have a job, or the salary they presented is not what they are earring
    • They ask to borrow money but never pay it back - this always starts small from $10 to $20, to $50 than hundreds.
    • They will always tell you they left their wallet/purse at home so that you can pay for their items while you are out
    • They will make you feel guilt for not spending YOUR money on them
    • They will give you a sad story that involve needing money
    • You will adore and love bombs like crazy when they  want money. 
    • They will even use sex
    • They will ask or mention a big purchase multiple times. This is to manipulate you to purchase the item, be careful of repetition, this is how thoughts get into your subconscious mind and narcissists are good with that.
    • Avoid signing any documents if you suspect someone is a narcissist or toxic